What Will People Say?
Why the shame of divorce hurts so much, and how to stop it from running your life
Thursday 26th April · 7 pm AEDT (Melbourne and Sydney time)
Live on Zoom · 60 minutes · Free · Limited places
Registration closes Wednesday, 25th November
FREE WORKSHOP · LIVE ON ZOOM
Camera off is welcome. No one will see that you registered.
Where you are right now
A wedding invitation arrives. Before you can feel happy for the couple, you feel dread: who will be there, and what will they ask? Before you know it, you’re grieving all over again for the life you thought you’d have. You picture yourself standing there alone, pretending everything is fine, torn between what was and what is now.
Perhaps you’ve started finding reasons to avoid family gatherings. Or your stomach drops when a relative walks towards you, because you know they’re about to ask the question that hurts the most: “So… how are you doing?”, said with a tilted head and that look. Kind words on the surface, and somehow they hurt deeply.
Maybe your separation is recent. Or maybe it’s been years since your divorce, your family and friends all know, and yet the shame still finds you: in a passing comment, at a celebration, in a question you thought you were past.
You’re not weak. You’re not oversensitive. What you’re carrying has a name.
It's shame. And shame grows in silence.
It isn't you.
It's what you were taught.
Long before your wedding, you learned what a "good daughter" does. She adjusts. She sacrifices. She puts the family's name before her own feelings.
So when a marriage ends, you don't just grieve. You feel you've broken the rule you were raised on. And the question "What will people say?" starts making your decisions for you: where you go, what you say, how much of yourself you hide.
It doesn't have to stay that way. That's what this hour is for.
WHAT HAPPENS IN 60 MINUTES
Not a lecture. Practical tools you can use straight away.
i. You'll understand where the shame really comes from
Why does the shame of divorce hurt so deeply for women from cultures like ours, and why did it begin long before your marriage?
ii. You'll learn how to stay grounded
When family or friends leave you out, or you worry that they might, you'll have a simple practice to calm the fear in the moment.
iii. You'll leave knowing what to say
When someone asks "What happened?", you'll know how to answer simply and with confidence, without over-explaining or hiding.
Plus, a guide to take home: keep it on your phone for the next family gathering.
THIS IS FOR YOU IF
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You're separated, divorced, or quietly wondering whether to leave.
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You dread the questions, the looks and the silence at family gatherings.
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Your family still hasn't told anyone, and you feel like something to be hidden.
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It's been years, and the shame still shows up when you least expect it.
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You're tired of carrying this quietly, on your own.
Created for South Asian women, and welcome to any woman whose culture makes divorce feel like a family matter.
Your privacy comes first
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Your camera can stay off, and you never have to speak or share your story.
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Only Monica can see the chat. No one else in the session will see your messages.
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Your registration is private, and the replay never shows you.
FROM WOMEN WHO'VE ATTENDED MONICA'S WORKSHOPS
“She creates an atmosphere where you instantly feel at ease, supported, and open to honest reflection… I walked away with a renewed sense of clarity and practical tools I could apply immediately.”
- Maitreyee
“Through listening to the webinar, I was able to notice and identify aspects of my relationships which were unhealthy or abusive.”
- A. L
“I learned practical skills from the workshop that I can quickly apply. Monica kindly held space for all the participants.”
- Vinita A.
You bring a kind and calm tone to the space… I am sure your pace will resonate with so many people.”
- Ana. A.
I know this road from the inside.
I remember the first time I had to call myself divorced, and how much I wanted someone to just hold me. I know the shame, the silence and the questions from the inside.
Today, I work one-to-one with South Asian women navigating separation and divorce, because I know how lonely that road is when no one walks it with you. Everything I do is completely confidential.
This is the workshop I wish I'd had then.
- Monica Kalra
Divorce Coach · Certified Relationship Coach · Author of two ABLE Award- Winning books, Reiki Master, NLP Practitioner, Udemy Instructor, 20+ podcast appearances
YOUR INVESTMENT
Free
Thursday 26 November · 7 pm AEDT · Live on Zoom · 60 minutes · Limited places
Registration closes Wednesday 25 November.
That's not what this costs you.
What it costs is staying quiet a little longer. Another gathering where you hold your breath. Another year where other people's opinions decide how much of yourself you show.
This is one hour to begin putting that down.
Your personal Zoom link arrives by email as soon as you register.
Still deciding?
You've carried this quietly for a long time.
Part of you may be hoping it will ease on its own.
Shame rarely does. It eases when it's spoken, somewhere safe.
You don't have to say a word. Just come and listen.
Before you go
"What if someone finds out I registered?"
They won't. Your registration is private, your camera can stay off, and only Monica sees the chat.
"I can't make it live."
Register anyway. Everyone who registers receives the replay afterwards.
"My divorce was years ago. Is this still for me?"
Yes. Shame doesn't follow a timeline. Many women feel it years later, at a wedding, on a form, or when someone asks a question they thought they were past.
"I'm not South Asian. Can I join?"
Absolutely. The workshop is created with South Asian women in mind, and any woman whose culture makes divorce feel like a family matter is welcome.
"Will I have to share my story?"
Never. You can simply listen. Anything you choose to share goes only to Monica.
"Is it really free?"
Yes, completely free.
They’ve had their say. Now it’s yours.