Are you being authentic whilst dating?

Being authentic is the most essential attribute whilst dating. It can be daunting to be yourself on a date because of the fear of rejection. However, know that being rejected on a date does not define your worthiness. You’re lovable and worthy, irrespective of the outcome of dating. And, moreover, you want to be in a relationship where you are accepted for who you are! 

Being authentic means you are able to say ‘no’ if something isn’t in alignment with your values. You don’t need to please anyone or put on a pretence for people to like you. You are a beautiful, loving being just the way you are! 

In saying the above, it is crucial to do your inner work to relate authentically with yourself and others. This allows you to know yourself and accept the views of others. 

5 Dating Rules to follow:

1.     Be yourself and relax.

2.     Go on a date where you are both involved in an activity that requires movement. E.g. dancing, hiking, driving, etc.

3.     Be surrounded by your friends on your first date. 

4.     Let the communication be balanced. Let them call you and give them time to return your text rather than you texting all the time.

5.     Ask questions that allow them to share their life stories with you.

Authentic Relating Games: 

According to Jonathan Haber: “To be authentic in a relationship requires allowing ourselves to be seen, and promises deeper relationships, deeper connection, more closeness…”

Some sentence stems you can use while dating:

You can count me on for….

My first impression of you is…

A time in my life when I felt most challenged was…

I feel really happy when…

The three words that would describe me are…

Monica Kalra, is a certified relationship and divorce coach, helping women and men navigate relationship struggles and the emotional challenges of divorce with confidence and clarity. If you're ready to reclaim your power, rebuild your confidence, and move forward with strength, connect with Monica Kalra using the link, https://calendly.com/monicakalra/30min, to book your free Solutions Session today.